All human behaviour is trying to meet our Six Basic Core Human Needs. Weather it be positive behavior or negative behavior we are trying to meet these six needs. What are they you ask? Well here they are;
- Certainty
- Variety
- Significance
- Connection
- Growth
- Contribution
Once you understand the six basic core human needs and you recognise how you are you are meeting these need, you can change you behaviour easily. Most people meet the first four basic human needs Certainty, Variety Significance and connection as these can be meet in a positive or negative way.
The best example of meet the four needs in a negative way is an example Tony Robbins used at an event I attended. He said, "Why is crime in humanity today? It is because you can satisfy four of the basis human need at the one time. If I held a gun to your head i would have, Certainty - I am in control of this situation right now, Variety - we have a situation here were anything could happen, Significance - I am the most important person in your life right now and connection - We have rapport right now you will do anything I ask you to do. Can you see how these basic human needs can be satisfied in a very negative way?
The question is how do we know it we are meet our six basic human needs in a positive way. When we are meeting the needs of contribution and growth can we truly say that we are meeting our six basic core human needs in a positive way. When trying to meet your six basic human need in a positive way ask yourself the question, am I bringing growth and contribution to the table with this behaviour? If the answer is yes you are meeting your needs in a positive way. If the answer is no, what do you need to change in your behavior to meet your needs in a positive way?
Have a fantastic Day
Alex Kalafatis
Managing Director
AK Coaching & Development
www.createthechange.com.au
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